The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, connection, and celebration. But for sexual assault survivors, the season can be emotionally challenging. Memories of past trauma, gatherings with unfamiliar people, or even festive traditions can unexpectedly trigger feelings of anxiety, sadness, or distress. For those who love and support family members who live with trauma, it’s important to recognize these struggles and respond with compassion and care.
Understanding the Impact
Holidays can be overwhelming for many reasons—busy schedules, family dynamics, and the pressure to feel “merry.” For survivors, these stressors may be compounded by painful reminders of their experiences. A seemingly harmless hug from a relative, a song on the radio, or even an unfamiliar environment can unexpectedly bring trauma to the surface.
How to Be a Source of Comfort
If you notice a loved one withdrawing, becoming emotional, or seeming unlike themselves, consider these supportive actions:
- Listen Without Judgment
If they open up about their feelings, listen actively and without interrupting. Avoid minimizing their emotions or rushing to “fix” things. Sometimes, just being heard is profoundly healing. - Respect Their Boundaries
Survivors often need to set personal boundaries to feel safe. If they decline invitations, limit physical contact, or step away from gatherings, respect their decisions without questioning or pressuring them. - Create a Safe Space
Let them know they are not alone. A quiet corner, a warm conversation, or the reassurance that they can leave an event at any time can make a significant difference. - Offer Support, Not Solutions
Phrases like “I’m here for you,” “You’re safe with me,” or “It’s okay to feel this way” can be more comforting than advice or attempts to cheer them up. - Educate Yourself
Understanding trauma and its impact can help you better support your loved one. Familiarize yourself with resources and strategies for providing trauma-informed care. Lafasa.org/
Shifting the Narrative
While holidays can be difficult for survivors, they can also be an opportunity to build stronger, more understanding relationships. By showing patience, empathy, and love, you can help your loved one navigate the season with a sense of safety and belonging.
This holiday season, let’s all commit to being mindful of the diverse experiences within our circles and approach each person with kindness. Sometimes, the greatest gift we can give is our unwavering support.
For extensive resources we encourage you to visit https://www.lafasa.org/howtosupportsurvivors under the advocates tab or https://www.lafasa.org/brochuresandpublications under the members and allies tab or under the survivors tab https://www.lafasa.org/survivorfaqs.
If you can use extra emotional support during the holidays or any time, contact the statewide helpline via text: 225-351-7233, chat: lafasa.org or phone: 888-995-7273.
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