If the current political climate is going to be a source of strife at family gatherings this year, there are solutions to keep peace.

Are you one of many Americans who are dreading the holidays because of the current political landscape? Some of us have very divided political opinions within our families. Politics can feel intensely personal, and certain values and beliefs can be close to our identities. Many people have very good relationships with family outside of politics, so that being said…is politics worth burning your bridge with family? If you have an overall positive family relationship outside of politics, it probably is worthwhile to maintain those bonds. Here are some strategies to help bridge the divide, keep your relationships strong, and be the calmer voice.

1. Start on a Positive Note
Begin by sharing good memories or funny holiday stories. Reminiscing together about past gatherings, family traditions, or hilarious mishaps can set a warm, friendly tone for everyone.
Bring up shared experiences that unite your family—maybe there was a time “dad” or “mom” got lost on a road trip and didn’t ask for directions, or when a holiday dish went humorously wrong. Laughter is a powerful connector.

2. Steer Away from Emotional Reactions
If a political topic does come up, try to respond with curiosity rather than passion. Ask questions or gently shift the conversation back to more neutral political topics that most people share.
Take a deep breath and remember that not every comment requires a reaction. Staying calm helps everyone feel more comfortable. Consider sharing how you’re trying to learn from others and respect different views, rather than seeing the conversation as a debate. Encourage those around you to reciprocate and match your emotion and attitude. Remember they can learn from you if you can be the calming voice.

3. Focus on Love and Family Bonds
Remind everyone, either directly or through your actions, that family bonds are much stronger than political opinions. Share something you appreciate about each person at the gathering—it could be as simple as how much they make you laugh or the kindness they show others.
Love is a far deeper connection than any political stance. Make a conscious choice to focus on the things that bring you closer, not those that divide. Sometimes, saying, “I’m just glad we’re all together” can defuse tension and remind everyone of what truly matters.

4. Set Boundaries with Humor
If all else fails, gently ask for family to respectfully not talk politics. Say with a smile and bring in the humor, “How about a holiday rule—no politics while sitting at the dinner table?” or, “Every time someone brings up politics they have to stand up, turn around, and be silly before sitting back in their chair.” Perhaps create a politics “swear jar.” Humor keeps things light while also steering the conversation back to safer ground.

5. Create New, Positive Memories
Sometimes, shifting focus to a shared activity, like cooking a favorite dish together or playing a game, can help build new memories and leave a lasting impression that’s entirely unrelated to politics. These moments can become the good memories you all bring up next holiday season.

If family means more to you than politics, you can be the voice of reason. By focusing on love, good memories, and staying grounded, you can help create an atmosphere that brings people together, making the holiday experience enjoyable and meaningful for everyone.